Consent isn’t just a rule we follow at the Autonomy Project — it’s the heart of how we build safety, trust, and joy together. Consent culture means creating an environment where every interaction, whether it’s sexual, social, artistic, or organizational, is rooted in mutual agreement and respect.
But let’s be real: most of us didn’t grow up in a world where consent was the default. We live in a society where boundaries are constantly ignored — from advertising that manipulates, to bosses that pressure, to systems that tell us our “no” doesn’t count. For marginalized people, especially women, queer folks, survivors, disabled people, and sex workers, these violations are magnified and normalized. Building a culture of consent means unlearning those toxic patterns and actively choosing a different way of relating.
The F.R.I.E.S. Model
At AP, we use the F.R.I.E.S. model of consent because it’s clear, simple, and powerful:
- Freely given – no pressure, no manipulation, no guilt.
- Reversible – you can change your mind at any time.
- Informed – everyone knows exactly what they’re agreeing to.
- Enthusiastic – “yes” should feel excited, not obligated.
- Specific – saying yes to one thing doesn’t mean saying yes to everything.
This framework applies not only to play and intimacy, but to volunteering, collaborating, and even how we use the space together.
Why Consent Culture Matters
Consent isn’t about avoiding lawsuits or covering our bases — it’s about creating a community where people feel safe enough to take risks, express themselves, and build trust. Without consent, there can be no empowerment, no joy, and no liberation.
Consent culture also flips the script on power. Too often, power is used to coerce or silence. At AP, power is shared. Asking for consent — and respecting it — levels the playing field and reminds us that everyone has the right to make choices for themselves.
The Systemic Piece
The wider world often undermines consent:
- Survivors are shamed or not believed.
- Disabled people are infantilized and denied sexual autonomy.
- Trans and nonbinary folks have their identities debated instead of respected.
- Sex workers are stigmatized and told they “can’t be exploited” if they chose their work.
- People of color are disproportionately policed and denied agency over their own bodies.
We reject those narratives. Consent culture means saying: your voice matters here. Your boundaries are real. Your “yes” and your “no” carry weight.
How We Practice Consent at AP
- Check-ins, not assumptions: We normalize asking, not guessing. “Do you want help with this?” is always better than stepping in uninvited.
- Boundaries are sacred: A “no” is respected immediately, without argument or disappointment.
- Consent everywhere: From a hug at an event to signing up for shifts, consent is built into how we move together.
- Education and modeling: We talk openly about consent, run workshops, and model good practices so that new folks see what it looks like in action.
- Restorative accountability: When boundaries are crossed, we don’t sweep it under the rug. We address it directly and use restorative models to repair harm when possible.
Consent Culture for Volunteers
As a volunteer, you’re not just “following the rules” — you’re a role model for what consent looks like in practice. That means:
- Respecting guest and community boundaries without hesitation.
- Modeling clear communication (asking before touching, assuming nothing).
- Recognizing that consent applies to you, too. Your right to decline a shift, set boundaries with your time, or say no to an interaction is just as valid.
Consent culture means nobody is just here to “give.” You’re part of a community where your needs, your limits, and your joy matter.
Consent Culture in Action
When a whole community practices consent, the difference is electric. People feel free to play, connect, and create without second-guessing whether their boundaries will be respected. Trust grows. Creativity expands. And our spaces become living examples of how the world could be if consent were truly valued.
That’s why we treat consent not as an afterthought, but as a shared practice of care and respect.
👉 As a volunteer, every time you ask, listen, and honor someone’s boundaries, you’re helping to grow a consent culture that pushes back against a world where people are so often silenced. This is how we build safety, intimacy, and joy — together.
Our Mission Groups
Our mission group is the intersection and overlap between these specific groups, acknowledging that these labels include many of the same individuals but it is necessary to identify them with specificity.
- LGBTQIA / Queer Community
- all spectrum of genders and identities who fall under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella
- Allies to this Community (friends, family, loved ones who identify as heterosexual/cisgender)
- Sex-positive, creativity-based “counterculture” community
- Sex-positive people of all identities
- Creatives: artists, musicians, and creative souls who seek to build, create, perform, etc.
- Often embraced by those who separate spirituality from religion, unlinking dogma from the concept of self
- GSRM - Gender, Sexual, and Romantically Marginalized Groups
- Gender minorities include individuals whose gender identity does not align with the sex assigned at birth, such as transgender, non-binary, or genderqueer individuals.
- Sexual minorities include individuals who are attracted to the same gender or multiple genders, such as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual individuals.
- Romantic minorities include individuals who experience romantic attraction to the same gender or multiple genders, such as queer, panromantic, or asexual individuals. It includes polyamory, non-monogamy, aromantics, etc.
- Kink/BDSM, including those who engage in Dominant/submissive dynamics
- Fem and Them-Identifying People (cis women, assigned female at birth, trans women, trans men, non-binary, and adjacent)
- This group is not about gender, but about the unique struggles and issues that these people experience with regards to marginalization.
- This group is not exclusionary of cis men, but the marketing and approach should be curated towards those who have life experiences related to being/having been/adjacent to women.
- Care must be taken to ensure the language does not exclude those who have AMAB or trans man experiences, but to highlight the shared commonality of living in a patriarchal system.
- Sex Workers and Sex Work Adjacent
- Anyone who performs professional services, online or offline, related to sexuality. This includes escorts, BDSM professionals, content creators, webcam models, pornographers, sex and intimacy coaches, surrogates, educators, and more.
- Sex work adjacent refers to the support roles, whether it be romantic partners, assistants, photographers, videographers, professional services, friends, etc.
- This group is not defined by what is considered “legal” with regards to sex work, as the laws vary by municipality and stigma remains consistent throughout.
- Focus on marginalized people in these groups:
- People of color (BIPOC)
- Transgender people and those outside the binary gender spectrum
- Sex workers
- those who are professionals in the adult industry (online and offline) and those who identify as artists, creators, and makers
The common thread:
The common thread that connects these diverse communities centers around the concepts of inclusivity, identity, empowerment, and the shared experience of marginalization.
Inclusivity and Acceptance:
All these groups seek a safe, accepting environment where individuals can express their true selves without fear of judgment or discrimination. They all value communities where diversity is celebrated, and differences are embraced rather than shunned.
Identity and Self-Expression:
These communities champion the right to self-identify and express one’s identity, sexuality, and creativity freely. This includes breaking traditional norms and challenging societal expectations related to gender, sexuality, and personal expression.
Empowerment and Advocacy:
Members of these groups often advocate for themselves and each other, striving for equal rights, respect, and understanding. They work to empower each other through education, support, and shared experiences, often in the face of systemic oppression or misunderstanding.
Marginalization and Shared Struggles:
Despite their diverse backgrounds and experiences, individuals within these groups often face marginalization, stigma, and discrimination. There is a collective struggle against the patriarchal, heteronormative structures that traditionally exclude or penalize them.
Intersectionality:
There is a significant overlap among these communities in terms of intersectionality – many individuals belong to multiple groups simultaneously, experiencing compounded layers of marginalization while also embodying multiple identities and experiences.
Community and Solidarity:
There's a strong sense of community and solidarity as these groups often come together to support one another, share resources, and fight for collective rights and recognition. They seek to create spaces – both physical and metaphorical – where members can find support, understanding, and validation.
The Vision
Our vision is to achieve financial self-sustainability within one year and evolve into a significant advocacy platform within five years. We aspire to foster a thriving community within 10 years, focused on pushing for reform and personal freedom for our members and the community at large.
Core Services
- Educational Programs: We offer a wide range of online and in-person educational programs designed to empower and inform our diverse community.
- Community Events: Hosting regular events, workshops, and gatherings at Wicked Eden to bring the community together.
- Advocacy: Actively working to influence policy and public opinion on issues that matter to our communities.
- Space Rentals: Providing a safe and inclusive space for events, meetings, and other community activities.
Target Audience
- Our primary audience comprises individuals from the LGBTQIA+, alternative lifestyle, creatives, and sex work communities who value education, consent, empowerment, and creative community-building.
- See Mission Groups Above
Challenges
- The biggest challenges we face are in the areas of revenue generation and team management.
- Marketing and social media has become challenging to reach our mission groups, and getting our target audience to “leave their house” to attend events.
Goals
- Short-Term: Achieve financial stability, expand the team, and establish a strong educational program.
- Mid-Term: Become a significant player in advocacy, attracting a broader range of donors and grants.
- Long-Term: Create a self-sustaining, empowered, and interconnected community that has a national presence and contributes meaningfully to societal change.
Values and Ethos
As part of our commitment to creating a vibrant, inclusive, and empowering environment, we draw inspiration from the 10 Principles of Burning Man (as well as adding in some of our own). We aim to bring these transformative concepts to our community and our volunteers are on the front line of teaching our community about them.
- Radical Inclusion:
- Explanation: We welcome individuals of all backgrounds and identities, especially those from marginalized communities, feels valued and included.
- Example: Hosting open community meetings where all voices are heard, and implementing anonymous feedback systems to include perspectives from all community members. Making everyone feel welcome and valid in all aspects of our events and programming.
- Gifting:
- Explanation: Encourage sharing of time, knowledge, and resources selflessly to enrich our community without expecting anything in return. We encourage volunteers to share their skills, time, and resources generously, creating a culture of altruism and mutual respect.
- Example: Volunteers offering free workshops or skill-sharing sessions, providing learning opportunities to others without charging fees. Encouraging the community to create and offer their skills and talents to others freely, creating a system of sharing that we all benefit from.
- Decommodification:
- Explanation: Strive to create environments less affected by commercial influence, focusing on human connections rather than transactions. We maintain an environment where community and artistic expressions are not influenced by commercial interests, focusing on the value of community.
- Example: Encouraging support from sponsors and donors as an act of love, not a quid pro quo. Encouraging support of small businesses and entities over large corporations. Ethical, thoughtful fundraising initiatives.
- Radical Self-reliance:
- Explanation: Encourage personal responsibility and the exploration of individual capabilities, supporting each other's journey towards independence and self-discovery.
- Example: Providing resources and tools for community members and volunteers to initiate their own projects or solve problems creatively without immediate external intervention.
- Radical Self-expression:
- Explanation: Support and celebrate each person’s unique contributions and expressions, within the respect of the community’s boundaries. We support and celebrate individuality and creativity, providing a safe space for all forms of personal expression, as long as they respect community welfare.
- Example: Facilitating an art show where community members can display their artworks, showcasing diverse forms of personal expression.
- Communal Effort:
- Explanation: Collaborate and work collectively towards shared goals, recognizing that we achieve more together. We work together as a team, valuing each person’s contribution towards our shared goals, fostering a sense of unity and collective responsibility.
- Example: Organizing community events where everyone can build and create together, encouraging participation from every person in our community to contribute.
- Civic Responsibility:
- Explanation: Act responsibly and ethically within our community and the broader society, respecting shared spaces and laws.
- Example: Coordinating with local authorities to ensure public events comply with city regulations, ensuring the safety and well-being of all participants.
- Leaving No Trace:
- Explanation: Commit to minimizing our environmental impact, ensuring we leave spaces better than we found them.
- Example: Implementing recycling and composting programs at events, and organizing participants to clean the venue thoroughly after use.
- Participation:
- Explanation: Encourage active involvement and engagement in community activities, emphasizing that personal action leads to collective change.
- Example: Inviting community members to take part in decision-making processes or to volunteer for different roles within events and projects.
- Immediacy:
- Explanation: Foster genuine connections and presence, valuing the here and now, and encouraging authentic interactions and experiences.
- Example: Creating phone-free zones at gatherings to encourage face-to-face interactions and immediate engagement with the experience.
- Radical Empowerment:
- Explanation: Foster an environment where individuals are encouraged to explore their potential and participate actively within the community.
- Example: Establishing mentorship programs where experienced community members guide and empower newcomers, helping them to navigate and contribute to the community effectively.
- Radical Consent:
- Explanation: Prioritize clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent in all interactions, establishing a culture of respect and boundary recognition.
- Example: Implementing consent workshops at events and providing clear guidelines on consent, ensuring all participants understand and respect personal boundaries and perpetuate this into the outside world.